Any advice for getting over a girl?
The worst thing you can possibly do is blame yourself that things didn’t work out. It’s important to remember that there are greater forces than ourselves at play—whether that be some higher power, pheromones, your partner, the zodiac or the alignment of orbital masses—that have a large effect on how relationships turn out.
That being said, it’s also paramount that you realize this most likely will not be the last time you are hurt, nor are you the first man to have ever been hurt, by a member of the “fairer” sex (note that “fairer” is in quotes—many a good man has been put under the bridge by a woman). And even if she did something despicable, don’t place too much blame or focus too much hatred on her, either. If she truly is that evil, then the relationship would have fallen apart at one point or another in the future anyways, so why waste your breath?
Once you have understood these tenets, then you can grieve. And grieve you must—compartmentalizing shit too quickly will give you a perverse sense of reality and probably cause you to behave like House or Charlie Sheen. Instead, read some literature on the matter (Women by Bukowski is an excellent break up novel) and listen to some break up records (Hank Moody would suggest Blood on the Tracks by Dylan, but I myself suggest the Love Language’s self-titled debut as a modern take on such a record—isn’t it amazing that High Fidelity somehow did not have an all-time top-5 break up records segment, by the way?). It’s important to cut ties with your ex during the grieving period because you will reach out to her during moments of weakness, whether it be to argue or spill your guts, if you have her number on speed dial.
Finally, occupy your mind until the thought of her becomes so diluted and insignificant that you can truly be said to have rid her from your conscious and subconscious. And feel free to do this however you like (so long as you are respectful of the fact that you are a member of a society who has taken a tacit oath to not be too big of a dickhead to those around you): get shitfaced with friends, play chess, climb a mountain, drown in a sea of pointless pussy…you get the idea.
Once you have done these things, go back in the dating pool. I’m sure you’ll find a stingray looking to swim.
Oh, and if it sounds like I am a man who knows what he is talking about or that I am just a rambling idiot, it’s probably because I am (unfortunately) both of these things. Cheers.
Please enlighten me, as I have pondered this many times - how is the scarf meant to be worn (on a man)? I assume this varies depending on length?
Don’t sweat this one out, brother. Just wrap that bad boy around your neck a few times, tuck it into your coat and be on your way.
Over-thinking the scarf is tragic. It should only serve two purposes: to keep you warm and not make you look ridiculous (see above). That being said, save the scarf for days when you truly need it and leave it at home when debating whether it would look be too restrictive over your lightweight cardigan on a warm fall day in San Diego.
Hey bro, your blog really makes my think about the way I'm dressed. And I wonder what you say about the schott perfecto leather jacket. I thought about buying one, but then I saw some morons with the jackets.
At $480, the Perfecto is extremely reasonable which explains why every poser and his mother owns it. To be perfectly honest, outside of the Perfecto, you’re going to encounter much difficulty trying to find a quality bad boy style moto leather jacket south of $800. The only options that come to mind are copping the Belstaff H Racer or stumbling upon some vintage-grail-shit-hiding-in-a-consignment-shop piece. Good luck.